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As we all know, the collaborative process is an alternative and healthier method of helping families resolve family legal interests.  While our own behavior remains within our control, there are outside factors that are not within our control that can make the collaborative process challenging.  One example is working with a non-collaborative attorney within the collaborative process.  I know.  This sounds ironic.  However, we can all imagine and some may have even experienced situations in which this occurs. 

What most people do not understand going into a litigated divorce is that the process itself amplifies and intensifies conflict. A litigated divorce intensifies conflict whether the couple ends up in court (only 5% of divorces) or moves through the long and arduous litigation process until they reach a settlement before trial.

La Academia Internacional de Profesionales Colaborativos (IACP) se llevó a cabo del 19 al 22 de octubre de 2023 en el Westin Harbour Castle en Toronto, Ontario, Canadá y fue un gran éxito.

The International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP) was held on October 19 – 22, 2023 at the Westin Harbour Castle in Toronto, Ontario, Canada and was a huge success. This is a time where IACP members around the globe come together on a yearly basis to share new ideas and thoughts on how “we” as a united community can spread the word of collaboration. It is a time for us to share, grow and learn from our fellow colleagues. However, exciting changes are in the forefront for IACP. 

CHANGES

After practicing family law through the traditional litigation process for about twenty years in multiple jurisdictions, I realized that most every family law litigation case has one thing in common, they result in absolute destruction in every possible direction. The parties are financially and emotionally damaged, the litigant’s children are emotionally damaged, relationships with family and friends of the litigants are damaged, and the attorneys, whether they will admit it or not, are also negatively impacted. 

The last several years have allowed me the privilege to work on many types of Collaborative divorce cases, but I was particularly enthusiastic when I was asked to join the team on a same-sex collaborative divorce case last year.  My goal as a financial neutral is to be consistently learning and growing.  The United States Supreme Court legalized same-sex marriage in all 50 states in June 2015.  But, until early 2021, I had not encountered a same-sex divorce case inclined to go Collaborative.

PART 2 by Megan Wolfe, CPA - Wolfe Financial Group

Protective Financial Attachment Style - “Money as Security”

The Protective financial style views money as security. A full bank account and a vast retirement portfolio means that life can be stress-free and that all their needs can be met. This style prefers that their savings remain untouched.

Money, from this perspective, represents protection against a rainy day or emergencies. Safety and stability are top priorities for this attachment style.

Money Matters: A Mental Health Professional’s Perspective on the Four Financial Attachment Styles

By Kristin Wallace, PhD, Counselors for Change

Money is by far the most common point of conflict between separating couples. It is important to realize that money in of itself is often not the primary issue; rather, what money symbolizes for people, what it represents, and how it provides identity are the real underlying points of contention.

Money is by far the most common point of conflict between separating couples. It is important to realize that money in of itself is often not the primary issue; rather, what money symbolizes for people, what it represents, and how it provides identity are the real underlying points of contention.