PFI

Developmentally-appropriate residential schedules and skillful co-parenting directly impact the life-long emotional and physical health of children. The post-decree family system will go through developmental transitions that when anticipated, can support
the health of the expanding family. As new adults (and often children) join the family, a creative parenting
plan speaks to this changing reality. Because these complexities are often the source of stress and conflict

The heart of Collaborative Practice includes transparency, integrity, and principled
cooperation to address concerns. While usually successful, on occasion the process
disintegrates, negotiations become positional, and people resort to “win-lose” and
hardball negotiation tactics. What do you do when you find you're negotiating with someone who is seeking
advantage for only themselves or their client? This interactive and experiential workshop is about keeping
negotiations on track, so clients can get better and more satisfying outcomes. 

In an interactive and reflective workshop, we will explore how specific universal values
underpin our sense of self. Clashes in underlying values can increase our conflict,
both as team members and as professionals working with clients. We will examine how
to moderate value-based conflicts and identify where we fall on the self-monitoring
continuum, and how to use this information to help us constructively work with our colleagues. Since identity
lies at the base of most conflicts, this workshop will give participants an opportunity to examine components

Have you ever been stumped, and discouraged, by the continuing and sometimes
escalating couple conflict at the Collaborative table – despite the sincere efforts of the professional team? Do
you sometimes feel like your “case” is drowning and you're desperate for an oxygen tank? 
Asking about the parties’ hopes and diving deeply into their perceived threats can bring fresh
air to a Collaborative case. This workshop will teach you how and when to ask questions to
unearth the threats that escalate and sustain conflict, without provoking it. 

Not enough clients choosing Collaborative divorce? Come to this workshop and learn how to bring passionate vision into your informed process with every client, every time. After this workshop, you'll be able to describe our work in ways clients find irresistible and craft elevator messages that can’t be ignored. Spend the morning with Pauline Tesler learning how to answer the implicit question “what’s in it for me?” every time you talk about Collaborative Practice. Only about 5% of incoming clients don't have what it takes to succeed in Collaborative divorce.