Most approaches to managing high conflict individuals and couples focus on managing them. While important, it’s equally if not more important to manage ourselves, in which case managing them will not be as challenging. The key to managing ourselves is to develop negative capacity—the ability to endure the unendurable. It is our capability to stay present to our own disturbing and frightening feelings and sensations and not run away from them in our habitual ways that allows us to stay present with the high conflict persons who we feel triggered by. From this place of centeredness and groundedness we can then act with skill—grace under pressure—rather than react. This highly experiential Institute will introduce attendees to the concept of negative capacity and provide an opportunity to practice and develop this skill.
