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Where Are You on Your Collaborative Journey?

Known forever in family law is litigation, the often-quick fallback to failed lawyer-managed negotiation. Negotiations fail (if attempted at all), then go to court and duke it out in front of the judge and may the best parent win.

Then along can Stu Webb from Minnesota in the early 1990s and he changed all that.

With a simple letter, he indicated he would no longer litigate yet continue to take on family law cases. The proviso was, he wouldn’t go to court.

A Part of Me is Confused: Internal Family Systems and Negotiations

Let us imagine some typical settlement meetings.

Client’s Ambivalence

I looked at her with a stunned look on my face when my client said, “Yes” to the offer her husband had proposed. Just moments before, she said, “No way in hell.” What had changed?